What is the fear? Marriage debates

January 22nd, 2015

Last Monday I was up watching a new show on RTE called Clare Byrne live. and she opened it with a debate on a topic close to my heart Marriage, specifically same sex marriage.

Now aside from the anger that I have that there even needs to be a debate on this subject.(Insuring equality and the same rights to all citizens why are people against this?). I found it incredibly frustrating to watch. Not only because of the No side packing out the audience and Breda O’Brien repeatedly talking over people and refusing to answer a direct question.

I am for same sex marriage. Obviously. I didn’t ask my fiancée to civil partnership me. I want a marriage. Whether or not our marriage involves us somehow having children is still up for discussion. But anyway there are a few points I want to talk about

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Civil marriage is essentially a contract between two people. The invisible bearded sky man has nothing to do with it. I have no intention of getting married in a church. More over I have no interest in it. I missed the boat on formally with drawing from the Catholic Church but I would if it where still an option.

The no side of the argument loves to scream ‘think of the children’ and rail against adoption surrogacy but those are separate issues that are being dealt with in the dail and have nothing to do with the referendum and even though they trot out the adopted girl with an identity crisis(I have some sympathy for her but she was out of place in that debate) she was only there to confuse the issue and while they scream about gay adoption and getting preference over straight couples. That is not going to be the case. In order to adopt there is a lot of scrutiny and hard work to actually qualify.

We are not going to steal children from happy homes

to quote Panti.

There will NEVER be a case where a child is taken from a loving mother and father and given to a gay couple. Scaremongering. #CBLive

Loving families tend not to put their kids up for adoption. Adoption though a flawed system in many ways is the opportunity to give children the chance to have a loving home. Which I feel a child needs a lot more then a person with boy-parts and a person with girl-parts. A stable home I think is much more important. I agree that the child’s mother and father should be the ones to provide that. but there are cases where it isn’t possible. Those are the children adoption is for.

Any parents are better then none at all.

Breda was asked what is the fear. a question she ducked and dodged badly(in my opinion). But it is a question I would love an honest answer to. She is an intelligent woman who knows that the children argument is a separate issue that is being dealt with by the dail. So that can’t be it and while the no side are doing their level best to confuse the issue with knee jerk statements and fear mongering I cant really imagine a no side of the argument that doesn’t boil down to I think gays are icky.

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